Loving yourself

The only person who you can love you truly, honestly and fully is always going to be you. Relying on anyone outside of you to give you the love and affection you deserve will always end in disappointment… You will forever be looking for something that you, yourself are lacking, and as a result, the people in your life will reflect that back to you. When we feel broken, when we think that there’s something wrong with us, or that we are lacking something, we will always attract at least one person in our lives that will mirror our beliefs about ourselves back in our faces. Usually, it’s the person who is the closest to us.

There’s no escaping this… Trust me I’ve tried. Until we realize that we’re good enough, strong enough, smart enough – wise enough, there will always be someone in our lives telling us that we are not good enough and that we need to be better. The moment we develop our self-love, the moment we break down the walls that we’ve put up to protect us from ourselves is the moment we open the door to the Universe and say “Yes!” to life. When we aren’t in harmony with ourselves – when we don’t really love who we are and continue to deny our basic needs and wants – when we say yes when we really want to say no, we put up a wall to our inner-most self. In not loving ourselves we put up a wall to the infinite universe that we have within. We tell this universe that we believe we are unworthy of happiness, good health and wealth, all in abundance, and as a

In not loving ourselves we put up a wall to the Infinite Universe that we have within. We tell this universe that we believe we are unworthy of happiness, good health and wealth, all in abundance, and as a result, we can not see these manifest in our lives anytime soon! Our greatest struggle in life is the struggle to accept ourselves, with all of our flaws and imperfections. To be completely honest with who we are and what we need. This dishonesty with others and ourselves will begin to cause dis-ease within ourselves, which will sooner or later appear in our mental, emotional or physical reality. Depression, anxiety, chronic

Depression, anxiety, chronic pain, and even cancer all have one common factor: the dis-ease we feel for ourselves when we aren’t in harmony in our lives. When we can love ourselves, fully, with all of our imperfections and past fuck ups we will begin attracting the right people, the right circumstances, and the right events into our lives. We will attract the people that will help us become the best versions of ourselves, the people that will uplift and celebrate life with us! We will be in harmony with the Universe and the Universe will start giving us the things we want, rather than the things we don’t want.

In loving ourselves we begin to change the world for the better, because of our infinite connection to it, and to the cosmos. So what are we waiting for? What’s stopping us from living the life we really want? Why do we settle for less when we know that we deserve more? Below are just a few ideas that will help you on your path to self-love and self-understanding!


  1. Make contact with your inner self: This is probably the most important thing we can do when we practice the art of self-love and care. To truly understand and know ourselves, what we feel towards ourselves – our flaws, our past wounds all play a big part in what we’re reflecting out to the world, and in turn, how the world will react to us. It is an essential part when attracting the right person vs Mr.Wrong. When we are stuck believing that we are damaged in one way or another, we will continue to attract similar people in our lives, and the majority of us will remain blind to this fact. Until we go within and meditate on developing self-love, we will always struggle to find love in our intimate relationships.
  2. Start telling yourself what you like about yourself: And start doing it now! Even if it means sitting down and writing out all the qualities you like about yourself. Writing things down helps me understand things better, and when I have it in front of my face, it’s hard to ignore. Put up these qualities on your bedroom wall and read them to yourself each morning before getting out of bed, and at night before falling asleep. The most powerful thing we can do is tell ourselves positive things before we fall asleep!
  3. Focus on your own approval and not the approval of others: You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing, and you most certainly don’t have to have permission to do it differently. Our time on this planet is precious, don’t wait for someone else’s permission to live your life.
  4. Distance yourself from those who bring you down: Not being in a relationship is better than being in the wrong relationship. Know and value your worth!  The people who you surround yourself with should motivate, inspire and respect you, and if you’re accepting anything less, you’re the one who’s losing out!
  5. Honestly facing your obstacles and inner resistance: Many of us don’t like to face our weaknesses or flaws because we have been conditioned to judge them. We are only human, but when we begin to dig deep within ourselves, we will find that the sense of anxiety and insecurity that we are feeling are actually being carried over from past wounds! But here’s the good news – they can be healed when we’re willing to release them. The first step is to look within and begin allowing the process of releasing to begin. There are many great resources out there that can help facilitate this process, from youtube videos, energy work, to therapists, — the possibilities are endless.

Below is a video that I have found on youtube that I have found to be very helpful on the path to self-love!


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